Thursday, 29 October 2009

Mum has passed away



Thank god I was finally able to have Mum home... Over the past four weeks I have spent many precious hours with her.. talking to her, feeding, changing, reassuring, and loving her through this awful debilitating illness ..... but yesterday she finally found peace and I was with her as she sadly passed away... as she began to slip away I was able to tell her how much I loved her and how much she was loved by all of the family, I was able to hold her hand and tell her not to be scared as she would soon find peace and I was able to say goodbye and that means so much to me......


Our GP came out to certify her passing and was so wonderful with us all.... she had only just lost her own father so was very sensitive to our needs and told me that I should call the undertaker only when I was ready to do so..... and so I was able to spend time with Mum playing soft music and burning some essential oils... give her a wash and dress her, brush her hair and make her look beautiful..... just that little bit longer before I had to let her go....... and then when I knew it was time I made the phone call to the undertaker........ and now she is gone I am bereft..... but with the love of my family and friends I will get through this.... now their is much to do and I guess keeping busy will help. I cannot stop the tears at the moment, I know it was expected and I know that her life was a torment and now she is at peace but I miss her so much and it hurts........


14 comments:

liZZie said...

What a beautifully dignified and loving passing you enabled your mum to have. I think you're a very brave woman and by blogging about this time in your life I think you will have benefitted others. The power of love. May you be cherished and comforted often and your kindly nature attract much love. Thank you Jane for touching my life, with love, liZZie XXX

wendyytb said...

God bless you.... I am so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away from this illness too. It was a release for her, but i miss her still.

This was a wonderful thing that you did for her.

Cottage Smallholder said...

I'm sending you an enormous hug.

Lots of love

Fiona

Sara said...

Dearest Jane, If I could only find a way to take away your pain I would. Time can be the only healer I'm afraid. After a while you will begin to see that your mum is still right beside you & always will be. I'm so thankful that she had a peaceful passing & that you were there to send her soul on to the next world with words of love. All I can do is tell you how special I think you are to have fought for your mum so hard & that you are in my thoughts. May angels be with you to ease your burden of sorrow. Much love, Sara xx

MoominMamma said...

Oh Jane, I'm so sorry to read this.
I'm happy you were able to give her a lovely quiet last few weeks, and it sounds like she passed surrounded by love and comfort.
My thoughts and love are with you at this time.
Kath xx

Ruth said...

Sorry to hear of your loss - but how wonderful that you were able to be with your mum like this, peacefully at home.

Bovey Belle said...

As I said elsewhere, you couldn't have been a better daughter for your mum, and I am glad that you were with her as she slipped away. You will be grieving for a long while, that is only natural. I was fortunate as I think I did much of my grieving whilst mum was still alive. I just felt an incredible sense of relief because she had suffered so in her final months.

((((BIG HUGS)))) to you from me, Jennie xx

thesnailgarden said...

{{Thinking of you}} Pj xxx

Leanne said...

thinking of you jane,

your mums not gone, you know.... just gone on ahead. thats all ..... i hope that thought brings comfort....

Leanne x

ICQB said...

Jane, I'm so sorry. We could each wish for such a love-filled passing.

With time the ache in your heart will ease, but the love will still be there.

Thinking of you,
Linda

Greentwinsmummy said...

Dearest Jane,if only everyone had the ending to this life that your mum did.You did her proud sweetpea,proud & you remember that x As Lizzie wrote,a beautiful & dignified & loving passing, so many do not have that. So many people cannot for whatever reasons, do what you did. You are a precious soul dear Jane x x

Stella said...

Dear Jane
I have only just found your blog, but as someone who has been through this, I am sending you my love and prayers.
God bless
Stella

Karen said...

So sorry to hear about your Mum, Jane.
Sending love and light
Karen xx

aromatic said...

THANK YOU ALL from the bottom of my heart, your comments have been so much appreciated by my family and I and have helped comfort us during this very sad time .... you are lovely, lovely people and I am blessed to have gotten to know you all thanks to the wonders of cyberspace.... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx